I know this is an odd place to ask this but I've looked around a lot already and can't find jack.
So now it's on Pencil...jack.
So my daughter is 19 mos old and she and I play a lot. Turns out I have the same attention span and level of amusement as a 2 year old so we get along great. Problem is, my wife is starting to get upset. She's worried that our daughter doesn't love her like she does me. She thinks that if she were to ever leave or not be around anymore we'd be just fine and the little munchkin wouldn't even know it. I can appreciate that and even empathize; the first year they were pretty close and I couldn't get any reaction out of her. Couldn't get her to stop crying, go to sleep, eat, anything. I was pretty bent out of shape and felt pretty useless, but I realized I had a place in it all. I'm worried my wife doesn't feel the same.
Has anyone gone through that? I'm just looking for something that says this is a phase and that eventually the little one will want to play with my wife again and be the one she runs to when she's sad or scared.
It's normal for relationships in a family to get closer and drift at various points. I mean, first your wife asks you to spend all the time with your daughter and then gets jealous that you're bonding? Jeez, you deserve a break. Just let your wife know that you'll have dozens and dozens of years for your daughter to play favorites.
Yeah, no joy. The "it's just a phase" card didn't really work. I'm left just letting her sit in bubble baths and thinking about it rather than trying to fix it.
I'm sorry I don't have the first hand knowledge to help you out man.
I'd tell her not to worry about it, in 13 years, she'll hate you both.
It's not your fault, it's mine, because I forgot you are stupid.
amen brother...
Well, I'm one of 3 kids. My brother is 4, sister is 11, and I'm turning 14 soon.
She says:
"Little girls tend to be "daddy's little girl" until around the age of 9-10. Then they tend to lean towards their mothers as puberty emerges."
Hope that helps man.
xadrian, I am going through the same thing. I don't know what to tell you. Enjoy the closeness you have with your daughter, but (as my wife is reminding me while reading over my shoulder) make sure you make time for them to be together without you around. Give them their space so they can grow closer outside of your shadow. Good luck and have fun.
Jeremy
see? now you can feel good about your crack addiction! just tell your wife and daughter that you want to give them their 'space'!Originally posted by J. Colwell
xadrian, I am going through the same thing. I don't know what to tell you. Enjoy the closeness you have with your daughter, but (as my wife is reminding me while reading over my shoulder) make sure you make time for them to be together without you around. Give them their space so they can grow closer outside of your shadow. Good luck and have fun.
Jeremy
ehhh
seriously though, my daughter just turned 6 months old, so she's still really clingy to my wife. my wife can make her laugh just by making noises and playing with her toes. I get stone cold silence.
But, she WILL sit in my lap and be content as all hell, and that kinda bothers my wife. She feels that she constantly has to 'entertain' her, but I told her it's because she gets all her energy out when she plays with her, so by the time I get her, she's tuckered out.
who know... your wife is probably feeling a little 'post-partum' depression, now that the baby's in the safety zone as far as needing her mother constantly. Give her a few months and she'll be back hanging onto your wife.
Hummm... I have a kid too... and I just found it out just a little ago... Anyways my kid lives with his mother, he lives like on a small town 4 hours away from here in wherwe I do live, and the worse is that my kid doesn't even know that I'm his dad, he thinks that I'm just some "uncle" or something like that... Kinda sad, I really wanted to get close to my kid, but for some reason things just can't be the way I want... You know man, try and enjoy that relationship that you have with your kids the best you can...
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